Updated: Feb 21, 2021
Do you believe in these myths?
Sometimes we absorb inaccurate stories due to false reporting of media, friends and family, other times we end up accepting such stories due to our (negative experiences) of events. What’s a blog without addressing myths? Beyond the lore, I will address how psychotherapy manifests in reality and important take home points. I am going to breakdown some of the myths I have seen and heard and then give you the true story behind each myth. Let’s see if you have any of these beliefs:
Therapy is only talking. Yikes. Well, lots of professional interactions occur via talking. Look at the biggest and most profitable companies today, they all involve the same thing: communication. That’s essentially how they get their point across and it’s how pretty much everything is done to deliver a product or service. Therapy is not just talking, it’s about making change without needing external objects to help you, this means less medication, recreational drugs, alcohol, risky sexual behaviours etc. The good thing is, all therapists are trained to ask the right questions, to spot the psychological behaviour that’s causing you to negatively affect you, to discuss how to better interact with your loved ones.
Therapists only care about money. Mhm. I see. Is that what many think? News flash people, therapists have bills to pay just like you, children and a family life just like you. There is no magic waiver that permits therapists from paying their due expenses. Though I wish that were the case (sigh). As therapists, we need to carefully review our fee structures and make sure it strikes a balance between sensibility and accessibility. If those two components are compromised, then it makes it difficult to market your services effectively to the right clients. Why did I mention this? Because it’s one I hear often. Not many therapists will discuss this, but I love being able to connect with you and everyone else so I think it’s important to acknowledge this aspect of the therapy process.
Therapy doesn’t help. How do you define help? What help means for me may mean something else for you but at least in the psychotherapy circles, it means recognising the difficulties you’re having and discussing options for moving forward. We can’t always change the things we want but equipping yourself to become resilient is the most important tool you have available to you. The fact that lots of psychotherapeutic techniques are evidence-based should further suggest the importance of seeing a counsellor: it’s their job to help you.
Therapy takes time: Let’s look at this, how old are you? If your answer is “well I’m in my 30s, 40s” then think about your experiences and how many interactions you’ve had throughout the years and how long it took you to learn or become conditioned to something i.e. accepting public transport can arrive late in the mornings, possibly making you late to your work. Over time we have accepted things in our life but when it comes to personal problems, we don’t apply the same rulings and thus, believe our problems should instantly change. You need time to undo what’s been done. Rest assured your life will improve sooner than you think, so why not take that step sooner rather than later?
Therapy issues: There are times you will be confused as to what your therapist discusses with you or you believe your therapist is not on the right path. Sometimes that can happen but what tends to happen is that the client tends to become more passive with their communication and stops asking the therapist questions, agreeing all the more to what the therapist is saying to you (right or wrong). A therapist has their own approach to helping you, so if you aren’t sure, it’s ok to ask questions, however don’t take it as a sign of incompetency.
Oh, another thing. If you want practical skills on how to fight anxiety, depression, trauma, OCD, work and anything that’s affecting you or if you feel like you’re depressed, why not call me for a free phone consultation then if we’re a good fit together, I can assess you and lead you on a road of discovery and healing.